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Why Do People Shout in Anger?

by Surya Narayan
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Anger is not the opposite of love; rather, it is the opposite of peace and acceptance. People shout in anger when they are not at peace with themselves, allowing frustration and unmet expectations to take control. But does anger truly serve any purpose? The life of the Buddha offers a profound lesson in how one can rise above anger, even in the face of extreme provocation.

The Buddha remained calm and serene even when faced with hostility. One well-known story tells of a man who, filled with anger, spat at the Buddha. Instead of reacting with fury or even mild irritation, the Buddha simply accepted the action without judgment. This remarkable response did not mean that the man’s actions were justified or that the Buddha condoned them. Rather, it demonstrated the Buddha’s unwavering inner peace and his ability to choose acceptance over anger.

Buddha’s teachings illustrate that true acceptance does not mean agreement with or approval of another’s actions. Instead, it means refraining from judgment and maintaining inner calm. When faced with difficult situations or when feeling wronged, you have two choices to avoid being overtaken by anger: acceptance or ignoring the situation. Ignoring may be practical in some cases, but true acceptance is divine. However, acceptance cannot be faked—it is not enough to merely tell yourself you accept someone’s behavior when you still feel they are wrong. True acceptance comes from within, bringing genuine peace.

Why Do People Shout in Anger During Arguments?

A story about a sage beautifully illustrates this. One day, the sage and his disciples were walking along the river when they saw a couple nearby, shouting at each other. The woman had lost her necklace while bathing in the river, and her husband was furious, hurling insults at her, while she shouted back in frustration.

The sage turned to his disciples and asked, “Why do people shout in anger?”

One disciple answered, “Because when we lose our calm, we shout.”

“True,” the sage replied, “but why do we raise our voices when the other person is right next to us? They can hear us perfectly well even if we speak softly.”

The disciples offered various answers, but none were satisfactory.

Finally, the sage explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are no longer close. Anger creates an emotional distance between them, even if they are physically near. To bridge that distance, they shout. The angrier they become, the louder they shout, as if trying to overcome the emotional gap between them.

“But what happens when two people are in love? They speak softly, sometimes even in whispers, because their hearts are close. The more love they share, the fewer words they need, and silence itself becomes more powerful than speech. When love grows deep, even silence can convey their feelings better than words.

“So when you argue, avoid saying things that create emotional distance. Focus on keeping your bond intact, and you won’t feel the need to shout.”

Why Am I So Angry?

Anger often stems from frustration, and frustration arises when our expectations are not met. This doesn’t mean that your expectations are wrong, but when they go unfulfilled, it leads to disappointment and anger. In such moments, you lose your sense of judgment and say things you may later regret. While the wounds caused by harsh words may heal, they leave lasting scars.

When two people make a conscious effort to remain emotionally close, even when they disagree, the need to shout diminishes. Arguments may still arise, but their intensity and impact are reduced.

Anger, like boiling water, can be controlled. While someone else may be adding fuel to the fire, you control the temperature. You can choose to simmer, stay lukewarm, or boil over. But remember, continuous boiling will eventually evaporate the water—it’s a matter of choice.

Acceptance as a Remedy

Acceptance may seem difficult, even impractical, in certain situations. Ignoring may offer a temporary solution, but true inner peace comes from acceptance. The Buddha exemplified this, showing that it is possible to remain unmoved by others’ actions when you cultivate a deep sense of acceptance.

By choosing acceptance, you protect your inner calm and prevent anger from overtaking you. Buddha’s life teaches that when you maintain peace within yourself, no external situation can rob you of it.

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